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Sexlightened
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I'm not asking what kind of partners you are looking for, but rather what kind of profile catches your eye, or turns you off?

I (female half) come across very few profiles that really impress me. It's just one reason why I prefer to meet people at events rather than trawl through hundreds of profiles.

I also come across quite a number of profiles that are a complete turn off. What's more, I often see these people complaining about their lack of success finding people who are willing to meet. Coincidence?

I occasionally browse through the search results. I completely ignore those who have no profile picture. I really don't care if they have other pictures on their profile. If they can't be bothered to upload a single non-adult picture to use as their profile picture, I don't give them a second glance.

If the picture is unclear or mostly blocked out, I probably won't click through. If they don't show their distance from my location, I probably won't click through.

I like profiles that have more than one or two public pictures. I like to see pictures that show some character and not just the fact that they have genitals. When looking at a couple profile, I want to see pictures of him too, not just her. I like pictures that show faces and body type, but at least one or the other. Genital closeups don't impress me. And if that's all there is, it turns me off.

I do check to see if they are member verified or have any vouches. I also check to see if we have any mutual friends. These things aren't must-haves, but definitely a bonus. They also get bonus points for proper spelling, grammar, punctuation, and paragraphs.

I like a write up that says something about who they are and what they are looking for, not just one or the other. If they are looking for FWB, I expect to see something about their interests. What do they like to do outside the bedroom? Too many profiles just say something about spicing up their sex lives, and not much else. I'm pretty sure most of us are here to spice up our sex lives. Tell me something I don't know.

Also, if a profile doesn't say much at all and tells me to ask about what I want to know, I move on. To me, a profile like that says one of two things... either they are extremely uninteresting or they are lazy. I'm not interested in playing 20 questions.

A profile that is full of negatives is a complete turn off. A profile that has an antagonistic tone directed at all the people they don't want will have me clicking the back button in a hurry. I quickly pass on profiles that display a frustrated or defensive attitude. I look for profiles that are upbeat and display an attitude that tells me they might be fun to hang out with.

What do you look for?

Warming the Bed
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Since you asked!  We are similar... very few profiles give us anything to really work with...

But in a nutshell... We look for a couple that:

  1. is Verified.
  2. is Filled in, has something about what they are looking for, what they aren't looking for, and something they can share about themselves.
  3. has decent body-pics of BOTH halves of the couple.  All too often it's pics of just the Mrs., which really leaves nothing for our Mrs to check out. (In most cases the ladies run the show, so men, please make sure you are visible!) 
    We totally understand putting the lady up-front, it totally makes sense if they are looking for FF play... but if you are a straight couple, and you have no pics of Mr., something is amiss (and dick pics don't count!). 
    If Mr is hidden from the start, we never bother asking for them, we've learned our lesson.
  4. Has put a bit of themselves "out there", revealed their likes and dislikes, a few sentences that are unique really help.
  5. Oh, and spelling/grammar. ;)

There's a whole other list for when we start messaging... 

Sexlightened
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Bump. I know there are others who participate in the forums. Let's hear your opinions.

Warming the Bed
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jSquared: we could cut-and-paste your post and it would match our thoughts exactly.

I (Mr. writing) hate it when I come across a great profile featuring a sexy woman ... and then don't see a single good pic of the man. (Close up dick pics don't count.) We don't reach out because Mrs. KingstonFunCouple can't judge if there is any physical attraction.

We have met some great couples through this site, but we've also wasted a lot of time sending messages back-and-forth that end up going no where. We have starting going to clubs and parties more often because finding play partners through face-to-face meetings is much more quicker and efficient.

Forum Virgin
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We look for a good looking guy with a large cock to start with.