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I (female half) have a separate single female profile on this site. I set it up to test a few bugs I was reporting that required interaction between profiles. I have left it in place because it allows me to preemptively block people on this profile. Well, I don't actually block them, but I add a note to their profile. If they ever want to come to one of my events, I want to remember how they behaved online.

My single female profile has zero pics and zero details. Match settings are as minimal as I could make them. My description basically says that I'm testing the site and do not to contact me. It's short and to the point.

The attention that profile gets is disheartening. Every time I log on, it triggers a flood of activity. The profile gets messages from people who say they like my profile (read: my gender and relationship status) and want to see my private albums (which are empty). It gets lots of friend requests and winks with default text.

I generally don't respond to messages, but occasionally I can't stop myself. I'm polite and suggest that they should read my profile. I explain that people who don't read profiles are the number one turn off that is discussed on sites like this. They always (100% of the time) turn nasty.

It's enough to turn any new person away from a site like this for good. Unfortunately, it also scares people away from events. They don't want to run into those people. But here's the thing... those people don't show up in the real world. I've had some RSVP to my public events. Some RSVP to every single one. They never show. Not once.

I doubt any of those incels spend much time in the forums, but just in case they are reading this... there is a real life network of lifestyle friends out there. Whenever someone goes from nice to nasty in 60 secs, they burn a whole lot of bridges at once.