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Pic collecting ? Or online shopping?

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Warming the Bed
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Seems the term "Pic collector " gets bashed around the forums and chat rooms in the LS community quite frequently.  What would define a pic collector vs a member requesting a photo? For example we have public profile pics for anyone to view including and more importantly  individuals who  match our criteria. If and when contact is made then most will provide a private pic to show intentions and generate further interest. But in many cases contact will be made from individuals who don't provide a single revealing image witch will provoke the question "Photos to start?" Now we have specific criteria requirement so to request a photo from someone who propositioned our profile initially would that put us in that PC  category? Or are we rightfully doing our due diligence when for lack of a better term "online shopping " to conclude we'd like to say it's never our intentions to offend or degrade,judge or criticise anyone anywhere anytime! for further perspective or debate?I'd appreciate  someone more experienced to offer an opinion,advice or even a bit of constructive criticism if need be?

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I think pic collectors are more referring to those who ask for pictures and then disappear without further comment; often very early on in the first communications.  If there is little chance there will be a meeting, there is zero reason to require pictures, regardless of the level of attraction and/or interest.  (For instance if there is a few thousand km between the profiles)  There is certainly nothing inherently wrong with requesting a picture from those who contact you, who you think you'd want to meet and who you feel may possibly be a match.  In that type of case I'd offer your own first though.  (Here's us, can we see you?)  I would suggest you are forthcoming with your feelings after the picture is given though.  (As in don't just disappear.)

In our case we never ask to see pictures and generally only give them if we feel there is cause, for instance if we expect we'll meet at a party, date or event where recognition will be required.  Being asked for our pictures is almost always a red flag for us, particularly if little rapport has developed.  If we want you to see us, and feel it is important, we'll share.  There is often little chance of rushing a meeting, so in the early stages of getting to know others it isn't really important to know exactly what they look like.  We get much more out of pictures that give a bit of an idea of their personality/interests and shape to be more important.  In the end, photographs have rarely added up to an accurate gauge of our attraction anyhow.

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I think pic collectors are more referring to those who ask for pictures and then disappear without further comment; often very early on in the first communications.  If there is little chance there will be a meeting, there is zero reason to require pictures, regardless of the level of attraction and/or interest.  (For instance if there is a few thousand km between the profiles)  There is certainly nothing inherently wrong with requesting a picture from those who contact you, who you think you'd want to meet and who you feel may possibly be a match.  In that type of case I'd offer your own first though.  (Here's us, can we see you?)  I would suggest you are forthcoming with your feelings after the picture is given though.  (As in don't just disappear.)
In our case we never ask to see pictures and generally only give them if we feel there is cause, for instance if we expect we'll meet at a party, date or event where recognition will be required.  Being asked for our pictures is almost always a red flag for us, particularly if little rapport has developed.  If we want you to see us, and feel it is important, we'll share.  There is often little chance of rushing a meeting, so in the early stages of getting to know others it isn't really important to know exactly what they look like.  We get much more out of pictures that give a bit of an idea of their personality/interests and shape to be more important.  In the end, photographs have rarely added up to an accurate gauge of our attraction anyhow.

 Thanks for taking the time to read our post and sharing your perspective. 

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We have noticed many profiles only feature photos of the woman and some pictures are so close it is impossible to get a sense of their bodies. 

We are interested in meeting couples, both of us need to be attracted to them, so we need to see photos of both of the people. In the interest of wasting as little of each other's time as possible, we ask for face and body pics if we already like the profile and public photos. We share a handful of photos publicly that show both of our bodies, we think there are enough for couples to get an idea what both of us look like. We generally don't share our face pics until we have seen enough of each of the other couples bodies to know we are attracted. If we feel in sync with the couples general vibe, attitude, interests and there is physical attraction, we need to exchange face pictures to recognize them when we meet. 

It can be tricky to spot a Picture Collector, I'm sure we have invited a few to our private albums, it is a risk we are willing to take. 

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Great responses by Fun4Her and Lifestyle duo. We agree with everything they both said.

We've only encountered one couple who we would consider to be pic collectors. We chatted with them over KIK, and sent them some full body fully-clothed pics with our faces. They asked for more, so we sent a few more -- our clothes were on, but the pics give you an idea of exactly what we look like and our body type. Finally the couple said they weren't interested and stopped communicating because we did not send any nudes. 

I assume now they were only interested in messaging us for pics for their personal spank bank. 

We have some sexy photos of us on this site, but we never take nude action pics where you can see our faces. We are a private couple and don't want to risk the photos ended up online somewhere.

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We once chatted with a couple online who told us it is very likely we would never met. He was posting sexy pictures of his girlfriend because she had just come out of a bad relationship and was having self-confidence issues. He posted the pics for the likes and nice comments, and the positive feedback was making her feel sexy again.

I actually thought that was very nice and appreciated them being honest with us.

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We never share ‘action shots’ that include our faces. Those pictures getting into  the wrong hands might cause some embarrassment. We are very discreet and intend to keep our sex life private.