Fact
Apr 17, 2016


The blowjob is the most misunderstood of all sex acts. It's popularity doesn't actually come from pleasure, but mostly from hype. The fact is that the blowjob produces a weak orgasm-inducing sensation to a penis, compared to pretty much all other forms of stimulation. This is because the penis was evolved to derive pleasure from the feeling of the inner lining of the vagina. The inside of a mouth is nothing like that. In fact, a hand is closer to the feel of a vagina than a mouth. But after you read this post, you're going to be giving blowjobs that will take a penis from 0 to 60 in less than a minute, and make the guy cum so hard that his knees give out. And YOU will enjoy what happens at the end more than ever.

But first we need to "look under the hood" of a blowjob. Of all the common sex acts, a blowjob actually delivers the weakest intensity of pleasure to a penis. So why do men rave so much about it? Three reasons. The first is psychological. Usually the first direct sexual stimulation a boy gets from a girl during their experimental years is a blowjob. The average age (today) for a boy's first blowjob is 15. Afterwards, his nightly masturbation before bed is accompanied by fantasizing about how the blowjob felt. This conditions his brain to become more aroused by the thought of a blowjob than by the actual sensations of it. The second reason is that a man doesn't have to get a solid erection to enjoy a blowjob. As an extreme example, my husband is currently recovering from a stroke, and he is unable to get an erection at all, yet I can give him an orgasm with a (very patient) blowjob.

The third reason has to do with something called the "sexual response cycle". This is a graph illustrating the way pleasure builds throughout a sex act, eventually culminating in orgasm. For example, masturbation has a sexual response cycle that looks like a hockey stick. When a teenage boy masturbates, it takes about 90 seconds for him to cum. During the first 70 seconds, all he feels is friction. Any sexual pleasure actually comes from mental fantasies. But the last 20 seconds is marked by a very sudden onset of pleasure that goes right to orgasm. That sudden onset is called the "inflection point". All sex acts have an inflection point. How you get to that point is what makes different sex acts feel different. Once a man passes the inflection point, all sex acts feel about the same to him. Any differences in pleasure are purely emotional.

For intercourse the sexual response cycle is way different than masturbation. When a man initially penetrates the vagina, he feel a huge burst of pleasure, almost like a "coming attraction" of how this will end. In fact, this is why men have that universal reflex to push all the way in on the first entry, and usually make that cute little "uhh" sound. But this pleasure instantly dies out to a lower, continuous level called the "plateau phase". This is where the "fucking" takes place. Some men remain in plateau for as long as an hour, some less than a minute, and this is where the vagina delivers its unique pleasure. The man then hits the inflection point, and begins to feel that "I'm gonna cum" feeling that guys get. Then he cums. By the way, some men, like adult theater trolls and dogging site lurkers, don't have a plateau phase. They go right to orgasm directly from the initial pleasure burst.

A blowjob produces a sexual response cycle very different from intercourse. There is an initial pleasure burst but it's weak. Then the plateau phase isn't flat like intercourse. It's low level and very prolonged, but it gradually slopes upwards. By the time the man hits the inflection point, the blowjob and intercourse are producing about the same level of intensity ... then he cums.

Once a guy starts cumming it all feels the same to him. It doesn't matter whether he's cumming in a vagina, or a rectum, or a mouth, or a hand, or even right out in the open. I know guys refuse to believe this, but this has all been studied and scientifically quantified. All orgasms feel PHYSICALLY the same to men irrespective of how it was induced. How releasing and satisfying the orgasm is depends on how pleasure was developed during the plateau phase. Adult theater trolls cum explosively because they cum at the initial pleasure burst, which is short and high. The same happens for rapists (uncomfortable topic to talk about, especially for a rape victim like myself, but it's true - rape produces a quick and explosive orgasm for the male).

So the trick to delivering a powerful blowjob is to make the penis "think" it's in a vagina during the plateau phase. Unfortunately, it's impossible to make a mouth resemble a vagina. But it's easy to make a HAND resemble one. Thus, the best blowjob is really a handjob with the mouth as a nice little accessory. In fact, if you do this right, the hand/mouth combination is actually BETTER than a vagina. Here's how it works.

If you gently grip a penis in such a way that your four fingers slide along the corona (the bottom of the top side of the head), and the knuckle of your thumb slides along the frenulum (that weird little grove that runs down the backside of the head), the penis will instinctively respond as if it's in a vagina. This is because the ripple effect of each finger passing over the corona resembles the convolutions of the vaginal mucosa (the inner wall). The effect is more pronounced if you slightly spread your fingers, about a millimeter, apart. Now, the mucosa is slimy. Your fingers aren't. So you think "lube", right? Wrong! The penis is extremely perceptive of the texture of one component of natural lubrication. It's called hyaluronic acid, and nothing man-made duplicates its consistency. There is a commercial product you can get from the drug store. It's called Hyalogyn, and it contains hyaluronic acid. It's actually NOT intended as a sex lube. It's used as daily therapy to keep the vaginal mucosa soft and supple as we age. It's literally an internal moisturizer. I use it every day to keep the ripples of my vaginal mucosa like a teenager's. Cocks appreciate that.

You're going to smear this stuff all over your hand and all over your lips. Then you're going to GENTLY grip the penis as in the previous paragraph, starting with the pinky at the tip, and slide your hand all the way down until your pinky hits his pubic bone. The slide should be at about the same rate that a penis penetrates a vagina (it should take about two seconds). When the penis feels that hyaluronic acid it will react with the same pleasure burst as in a real vagina. You'll feel the head bloat in your hand, and the guy may even make that cute little "uhh" sound. As soon as the head emerges through the top of your hand, slide your lips over it and glide down as your hand moves.

Now hold you head and hand still, and let the guy pump the penis up and down (just like he's in a vagina). He will do this automatically. You don't have to coax him. Now, all you have to do is make your hand/mouth combination into a vagina. Your pinky finger is the opening to the vagina, and your mouth is the area near the cervix. When a penis pushes inward into a vagina, the muscles at the top of the vagina (near the cervix) tighten. This causes those slimy convolutions in the vaginal mucosa to squirm around the head of the penis like a ball of worms. So, you do this with your mouth. Slide your lips around all slimy like in the Hyalogyn, and rub your tongue up and down on the frenulum. Make sure your mouth is ONLY on the head of the penis, never down the shaft. For guys with really long cocks, you'll have to pull your head back a bit. But NEVER pump your head. That's a huge mistake women make when giving blowjobs. Try to keep your head and hand as still as possible. All your motions should be with your lips and tongue, and they should all be subtle. Let him do all the pumping. Every time he pulls back you should loosen your hand slightly, and every time he pushes forward, you tight your hand slightly. That's what a vagina does. And never grip the penis. Vaginas caress cock, they don't squeeze them. Contrary to popular belief among women, penises don't like to be squeezed.

Make sure that every time he pulls back the penis actually leaves your mouth completely, but never leaves your hand. And when he pushes in, the whole head of the penis, but not any of the shaft, should go in your mouth. Keep your lips loosely closed so the head of the penis has to spread them apart as it pushes in. By allowing the penis to leave your mouth with each pullback plays a nasty little trick on it. Remember the initial pleasure burst? Well if you do this, he will keep getting a bit of that initial pleasure burst every time he pushes in. That's something a even vagina can't do. He will also subconsciously push a little harder, causing his anal sphincter to squeeze, and stimulate his own prostate. Remember, your mouth is not what's causing his rise to orgasm, your hand is. Your mouth is what's causing him to like to so much.

Just keep your head and hand still and keep these subtle motions going throughout his plateau stage. Of course, it depends on the guy how long this will be. Your husband might take a few minutes. If you're doing a stranger at a gangbang, and you're letting him feel you up at the same time, it should take about 45-60 seconds. If you like really fast hard cummers, the adult theater trolls will go through plateau in about 10 seconds, even quicker through a gloryhole (there's one at the Swingshift).

There are a few ways to tell when a guy is about to cum. You'll feel the head bloat in your hand and mouth. His rhythm will slow down. And the amount of time he takes before pulling back with lengthen. But one cute trick for detecting when a man hits the inflection point (when he first gets that "I'm gonna cum" feeling) is to keep your other hand on his butt cheek. Every time he pushes in, you'll feel his butt cheek tighten, but then it relaxes back. When a guy is about to cum, his butt cheek tightens up, but doesn't relax. It stays tight. He doesn't even realize it himself, but you can feel it in your hand.

Now, just before the first squirt comes out (about 6-8 seconds before), his butt cheek will quiver and the head will bloat big. At that point, take your hand away, and slide your mouth all the way down the shaft. Hold your head still and gently stroke your tongue up and down along the shaft... and wait for the cumshot. This is always the most exciting part of giving a blowjob for me. Those magical few seconds just before the cock squirts. It's like being on a rollercoaster for me. You know that first exciting drop is going to happen, you just don't know exactly when. It might be now, or a second from now, or 2 seconds from now. One thing is for sure - he's GOING to cum, and nothing will stop it.

Always take the cumshot in your mouth. If you don't like cum in your mouth, I feel sorry for you. Feeling the cock pulsing against your tongue, and feeling that stuff fill your mouth is one of the sexiest sensations god made. I don't swallow it right away. I let it fill my mouth before swallowing it. And I always take the first swallow while the penis is still in my mouth. The guy can feel that, and it's a way of saying "thank you for the thrill".


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