Forum Virgin
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Really new to this and need help but I have to say this site really isn't what it's. Racked up to be
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Forum Virgin
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That's because this site caterers to couples mostly..and singles guys are not what most of us are looking for. The same goes for swingers clubs..though you will find some people are looking for guys too. Now if you where a single girl you'd have dozens of emails and winks everyday 
Forum Virgin
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The lady said it very well, it's not your fault that you are new to this, but you are being a tad hasty in judgment! Good luck in your quest
Warming the Bed
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You sure are right about that...just view the profiles...not many looking for guys on their own
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Scotsman, some advice to you and every single guy on this site:
WORDS
In the "Description" section, take time to write a good profile. I always look there first, and at the "age" -- I want people similar to me. Others might be like that too.
You're going to have to work a little harder for your encounters. Is it worth it to you to invest 30 minutes to an hour of your time writing this out to potentially get people to play with you?
You could describe:
What you are open to in the bedroom
Sexual fantasies
What you do in your spare time (opens potential for conversation in person, common interests, people might see you as "their kind of person")
Profession/vocation: you don't have to say anything specific, but saying you are professional, hardworking, educated, etc., helps.
Words that speak of your character: respectful, gentle, sensual, intelligent, a blast to be around, dominant, submissive, easygoing... who are you? Let us know.
Say something that makes you sound curious but vulnerable: new to this, eager to explore, not sure where to start, hoping to make contact and meet. Too cock-sure is a bit off-putting. Others feel unsure and curious too, they'll feel more comfortable contacting you if you sound like you feel the same.
Invite others to contact, message, chat with you to see where it might go.
PHOTOS
If you want to appeal to women:
Sure, post photos of your cock, it's expected. We'll look. Make sure you're groomed nicely.
Post a photo of your hands. When a woman sees hands she thinks about all the things they could do to her. Strong hands. Gentle hands. Hands are so sexy!
Bare chest.
Forearms! Wear a long-sleeved shirt, roll up the sleeves and show off your forearms. Women love forearms!
Ass in jeans.
The idea is to make women want you, to feel attracted to you. It's sometimes about nude shots, but sometimes about how attractive you look in clothes or partly undressed.
A partly concealed face shot in the public album. Women will look and wonder what the rest of your face looks like. Mystery is a good thing. They might ask to see your private album.
Hope this helps you and others!
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Case in point. Look at the one photo of the guy in this profile: Hands and forearms. Nice teaser.
http://www.swingingheaven.ca/members/Hamilton/profile/
Forum Virgin
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We are a couple looking for single men and let me tell you that we get dozens of requests on a weekly basis and I agreed with Different int he posts before. This site is mostly couples, single women are a rarity and most of them aren't looking for single men but for couples as well. So if you are here, your best chances are to hookup with a couple. Doesn't matter what your sexual preferences are, when you are aiming at a couple there is a male to engage with in some way or another. Be seductive, you got to seduce a couple and not just the female part. Be open minded and express your curiosity about being with a couple in bed. Some couples are into NSA fun, but many others are looking for something ongoing and then you got to be even more seductive. Be open minded and be ready to try things you wouldn't when you were just with a woman. This is my advice to single men who ar ereally looking to have a good time with a couple and not just to get laid with the wife, that's with a few exception is the biggest mistake you can do and the worst is if you ever suggest the possibility of having just her alone for the fun.
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Yeah, I totally agree with all these responses. Great advice. If I can add my own.....
Don't appear desperate, for God's sake (not that the original poster was, at all). We aren't in high school. Try to appear like you may have had sex before. Don't be a douche-bag and just hit on everyone and anyone. Read their profiles, see if they are even looking for a single guy. If they aren't...don't ask them to. If you are in the chat room, which I love, for conversation, show some class. Market yourself, if you want any success on here.....and start doing weighted wrist curls for those forearms!!
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New here as well and actually we are looking forfor single guys. We go to the profile and info section. Write lots, details, details. Be interesting and put a little effort into your profile.
For us the generic winks we get don't show us that a lit of thought went into it.
Make us want to look further, pictures are nice but for us a cock picture as the guest thing we see is not what we are after, e believe you have to be able to relate to someone first.
Best of luck
