We've been playing full-swap for almost 12 years and before we took the plunge, there was Communication about every little thing. Health concerns, play preferences, full-vs-soft swap, jealousy, etc,,, they key here is that we were BOTH interested in pursuing this. Not just the male. After we crossed that particularly large hurdle, we dipped our toes by visiting various clubs. Once we realized that everyone was pretty much looking for other couples like themselves, we began organizing meet and greets with various couples. Once we met a couple that we were interested in sharing a night of Naughty fun, we realized that the other couple went through the same things. So we would suggest, get horny, get naughty and get out there and start meeting your peeps ! If you don't do it together, it will be finished before it started. If you do it together (everything) then it will be the best life journey you'll ever experience!