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Warming the Bed
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We are finding that there isn't allot of edmonton couples that are serious enough to want to meet and go from there. Its a certain body type  (ken/ barbie)  some are looking for ,Others are things we have heard is that some of the males on here chase the females of the couples off of the site cause there is a lack of respect. And its not just the males that do it its the couples that do it as well.  The comments and the one liners that most of the edmonton couples or females that are getting most of them don't want to come back on .  We have had to meet couples and females off the site. anyone notice this?

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Really? There seems to be a lot of genuine people on here, but yet they are flakey at the same time, lol. You can try other swinger sites such as Nakedplace and swinglifestyle. They don't seem to have as much people though.

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I (female half) highly doubt there is anything unique about Edmonton. Trying to find people online for a real life meet takes a lot of work and patience, no matter who you are, where you are located, or what site you use.

Not everyone is here for the same reasons. Some people are just curious. Some just want to chat online. Some just want to cam or exchange pics. Some people display unpleasant attitudes in their messages.

And then even among those who are serious about meeting in real life, not everyone is looking for the same thing. Some are looking for NSA and some are looking for FWB. Some are looking for full swap and some are looking for soft swap. Add in body type, sexual orientation, and a bunch of other likes and dislikes, and you might begin to see how complicated it really is.

If you are looking for FWB, that adds another element of complexity. Not only do you all have to find each other attractive enough, but you actually have to like one another enough to want to spend more than an evening together. It's hard enough to find vanilla couple friends that you want to hang out with regularly.

We belong to several sites, but we don't use them to find play partners. We use them to connect with people we've met at events (parties, clubs, meet & greets). There are plenty of serious people on here, but you have to wade through the rest to find them. Personally, I find it a lot easier to meet people by just getting out there in real life. That instantly eliminates all those who are online-only types.

Warming the Bed
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@CjMegan - Quite sure it's not an "Edmonton only" thing.  I think it's an "online world" sort of thing.  Like jSquared said, everyone is here for different reasons.  Finding those also looking for the same things is the hard part.  Hopefully, if you put yourself out there, and be clear with what you are looking for, you'll find a match!

Sadly, we don't put much faith into online meeting anymore (although we haven't completely discounted it).  We generally only use sites to figure out what events to attend.  (It's too bad they don't put more work/promotion into the "events" part of this site)... At least you know everyone at the event is willing to get out there and actually meet people!, the website then lets you keep in touch, unless you've connected via Kik or whatever else.

Mr.

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We agree with the other comments -- it is not just an Edmonton thing. For every 10 people we reached out to, we expect to meet maybe one or two. It can be discouraging. We are now spending more time going to events and meeting people face to face, and less time online.

It is just so much easier to meet people face-to-face. You can tell within a few minutes if there is a connection.

Warming the Bed
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Yeah we really dont bother picking people up on here anymore , we cam most of the time

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we have met 2 males on the site  BUT WERE FROM ANOTHER SITE FIRST  the problem we find is people are shy and alot of times they are intimidated MY wife asks everyone for  their body and sexual info and if they are lying we just go home  we don t waste time with people that can t be honest and people that are know shows that why its best to use a couple sites that can verify couples and singles its easier to eliminate a lot of B.S from the start

we are looking and the wife is very picky she doesnt want to waste our time with people that don t fit what we are after

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This site has all talk and no action. Should link it to [removed]  as people like to post but no one is serious.  On here for 5 years and alot of chatting and mostly a waste of time

Warming the Bed
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This site has all talk and no action. Should link it to [removed]  as people like to post but no one is serious.  On here for 5 years and alot of chatting and mostly a waste of time

 have you thaught that if after 5 years and no action that the problem may lie with you? 



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wish we were closer ' feeling the same frustration 

Forum Virgin
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we don’t agree with the ‘all talk, no action’ comments above. We have been very lucky hooking up here and we aren’t sluts that jump at anything. Perhaps reevaluate your profile. Is it concise, informative and with some pictures?   try to change it and see what happens?!

Forum Virgin
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And PJ., you seem to be doing ok (4 vouches)

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I assume you’re saying so because of covid which is understandable but not a fault of SH

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This site has all talk and no action. Should link it to [removed]  as people like to post but no one is serious.  On here for 5 years and alot of chatting and mostly a waste of time
 have you thaught that if after 5 years and no action that the problem may lie with you? 




It is "thought" by the way.
Well if you think that a loyal, fun loving, intelligent, caring and thoughtful guy is a problem then I guess it is me 
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This site has all talk and no action. Should link it to [removed]  as people like to post but no one is serious.  On here for 5 years and alot of chatting and mostly a waste of time
 Okay we are from Belleville you are from Belleville let's meet

 I did message a few times over the years and didnt recieve a reply

Warming the Bed
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Covid has put a damper on a lot 9f things.. I would hope people who are wanting to get out to meet/get together do not have symptoms. Or have been tested and cleared not actively knowing they are spreading something. I think its probably pretty safe the ones willing to meet are safe.