There is a way to block what you do not want, the more that block what's not wanted is an easy deterrent to keep the unwanted from contacting. Everyone has a preference, what might not be yours is certainly someone else's.

We like to watch another couple, possibly join in, or let the women play and have the men sit back and watch

Have a couples account maybe to start

We find a lot of lookers and likes but none actually wanting to connect. 

We do not accept requests unless we have conversations and or have met before. 

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if they send us a message and we respond and they don't respond back that makes me scratch my head ... it's like YOU sent US a message.... ?

 I think its ridiculous how many do this. Like come on we are not kids playing games

Covid has put a damper on a lot 9f things.. I would hope people who are wanting to get out to meet/get together do not have symptoms. Or have been tested and cleared not actively knowing they are spreading something. I think its probably pretty safe the ones willing to meet are safe. 

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However we do hate the constant looks in our profile and likes but not getting a message.

And I feel the complete opposite of that. I feel it very strongly. I absolutely do NOT want people jumping into our inbox to say they like our profile. I do specifically state that on our profile, but a number of people don't read or don't respect that.
I take no issue whatsoever with someone checking out our profile and liking our pictures. If I didn't want people to see them, I wouldn't put them out there. But our profile is simply a way for us to communicate with people we've already met. Or for allowing people to get in touch with me regarding the events I organize.
Just because someone likes your pictures does not mean they are interested in chatting or meeting.
And a profile view is completely meaningless. I am extremely careful not to hover over avatars which triggers a view, but it still happens far too often when scrolling through our feed or forums. It also happens often when I click X on a notification.
What I find really annoying is when someone likes that I viewed their profile. I hide the activity for people who do that. For one thing, I didn't actually view their profile. Two, if they want to like something, I would prefer they like our pictures or profile.

 Guess I will clarify. We totally get the cursor hover part, It is the constant looking of our profile and liking it by the same person over and over and no message, even when sending them a message thanking for the profile like. We do like getting pic likes and everything else. if we did not want people looking at our profile we would not have one..

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why is it so hard to find a married man that has his wife’s blessing to enjoy an other married lady that has her hubby’s permission. It is much safer if they are only having sex together and with thier own partners.

 We would entertain the idea wife has one rule to be able to meet and get to know the couple or married women, and have no secrets in endeavors and blessings she will give.

We reply to all actual messages, whether we are interested or not.. What we do not reply to are immediate album invites and winks.. However we do hate the constant looks in our profile and likes but not getting a message. Geez people if you have interest be adult and send an actual message,  we will tell you straight away if we would like to connect or if not interested. We make notes on profiles of who we connect with instead of blocking. We only block if absolute necessary. 

we are not in Durham but fairly close

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We have spoken to hundreds of people here and of course all are eager to meet. Then upon further scrutiny we see the reality.
98% (I might be generous here, could be 99%) of all the chats are with the male-half of the couple who makes ALL the claims that she is into, she's on board, etc, etc,... but she's never online to confirm. This is huge red flag to us. If you claim to be a couple, you need to get the other half online to prove it.
From where we stand (and it's laid out in our profile), we can talk about meeting till the cows come home... but if your wife is not going to get involved in the process of getting to know each other you will NEVER meet us. Getting involved means 3 things.
i) She comes online to chat, so we can ALL interact.
ii) We ALL have heard each other voices on the phone, confirmed we are real and confirmed that we have mutual interests.
iii) ALL four of us agree to a confirmed meeting.
Needless to say 99% of people don't make it past stage one.

 I think you hit the nail on the head.. we like to 4way group chat so everyone is on board..