We always thank the people for reaching out and talking to us and then tell them unfortunately we both were not feeling the connection we needed and we wish them good luck. We are all adults but at the same time we never want people walking away from us being upset, so we are always as positive and grateful as we can be.

Our awkward situation is that we don't date profiles without guy pictures which is bolded and highlighted on our page.  If we respond honestly, we are in trouble if the couple then sends such photos and the Mrs declines.  That is basically a gut punch to the fellow.  

What is your generic response that lets people down easy?

I'm genuinely sorry that some have had to deal with rudeness! For the most part we actually get a "thank you for responding" the bottom line is everyone just wants closure one way or another we are all adults we can handle it.

We try and respond to every message it does get frustrating, the silence is deafening. Lol

My Mrs has the same problem with so many profiles.  At CD, there was much debate on this matter, with many arguing that the guy wasn't worth the picture.   The other argument was that the guy is famous or important, and cannot risk exposure.  Nevertheless, she has as much right to see what she is getting into.  Some surprises are best avoided.  Funny though, some think that his junk is sufficient stand-in for the whole package.  Ahhh, noooo.  Next!!!!!

We seem to be a tiny minority in that our shots are all as a couple.  Guess that it is because we are newbies.

Actually, the first steps start long before the clubs.  Some seem to jump right into it, whereas in our case, it is a slow road.  Step 1 was making her feel sexy.  Turn the lights on and let her know that she looks fab.  She needs to be confident enough to drop her clothes in front of others. Step 2 was stretch the boundaries.  We visited nude beaches.  We got frisky out of sight in the lakes while swimming.    Step 3 was made easy here in Toronto as the clubs have no pressure newbie tours where they reassure everyone of the rules and their safety.  Step 4 was as Kingston suggested which may get her intrigued.  Step 5 was use sites like this one to finds others on the same wave length.  Step 6 you see in our profile which is beginning with low risk shared massage.

Seems like a lot of work and time, but not everyone has the confidence to swing for the fences.  Hopefully, your wife opens herself to discovery.

there’s a posting on Ozone’s website saying:

“Cafe Desire is down due to a natural disaster and will return shortly...

In lieu of this, we are offering a Cafe Desire Withdrawl Super Party Weekend”!!!

PleasurePair made the comment in the thread, 'Does anyone meet on SH?' in the first forum.  They don't indicate their source.

Not to knock SH as we are liking many of this site's features.  

We actually enjoyed CD.  There are a lot of features that we liked.  The home page of club events was handy as well as the sign ups.  They make a distinction between full and soft swap couples to help connections.  The forums were quite healthy - comparatively, the SH forums are pretty dead.  There was some drama and road rage that got  some kicked off the site, but for the most part, people were good.

It is now 5(?) days and counting.  We are beginning to wonder if they are going to reopen in spite of the earlier news.

Quote by 01Barriecouple
was wondering the same thing. The last time this happened, the site ADMIN admitted that he was hesitant to fix it because it’s a thankless job. I’m glad to hear that he’s going to fix it again, although I wouldn’t be at all surprised if it’s was down for good.

Looking to meet genuine people for some fun

was wondering the same thing. The last time this happened, the site ADMIN admitted that he was hesitant to fix it because it’s a thankless job. I’m glad to hear that he’s going to fix it again, although I wouldn’t be at all surprised if it’s was no for good.

Thanks.  Can't find their post but that is good news.

Is it down? I thought it was just my browser ?

we’ve met some sexy peeps from SH. Sure there are those that have joined to only “creep n jerk” but if you’re patient and weed through the pic collectors- you’ll find profiles that are serious.

Now that the other site is down, I wonder if more peeps will join SH??

Looks like Cafe Desire has gone dark.  Anyone know if they are gone for good?

Hotel stay 

We've never met anyone directly off of this site but we have met people from different sites. Finding people to mesh with can be difficult. For example, I find a profile that is interesting but as I read on it says that they aren't interested in smokers. We smoke so I won't bother sending a message or if they've messaged me I'll make them aware and that's usually the end of it. Same with swing status, how you play etc. 

We're up for meeting most people as long as they understand what we do and don't do. We prefer to meet at our favourite club (M4) so of course anyone is welcome. It makes it easy if there is a connection but also if there isn't you aren't stuck with us. 

Hi Pleasure... we have been trying to get your attention for well over two months... maybe the messages aren't getting through? Or maybe you're not interested

Trying to meet but the pool is limited. Add some water plz. 

We usually go to Cayo Largo or Santa Maria for the nude beaches Not till January or February 

been there many times, great atmosphere, summer time parties starting at noon, very relaxing....unfortunately won’t be there anytime soon—- out of town for work... 

We will been in fla for month of March.

Probably there in the late fall as well.

Let's have some FWB.

im Very interested in this or similar. So hot and ill make sure to be available however weekends are best

The LS search is difficult everyone is looking for something different.

We are a poly couple I'm a bisexual women my husband is straight... seeking a permanent gf/wife.

We do play with couples too but a lot of beautiful sexy women unfortunately don't have the man to match.?

???

are there any cpls  from van or the lower mainland that want  to meet  a nice clean ddf cpl  for some outdoor play? pm us 

ive not found online forums any good (post 2000), i am mostly here to read forums...  the internet really has changed the landscape of people

I’m on this site looking for a les severe DomWho would like to take advantage of a young fit male sub. Things I like from my dom include smothering, facesitting, watersports, role play etc.. I’m very orally fixated and love to please. Let me know if this is something that interests you and I will send a long a face pic

any ladies interested in some free hair services? I'm a professional hairstylist ( over 20 year's experience ) & I would love to meetup with you. I would love to blow and tease you. Lol lol ever get a haircut naked?