We are 14 years married and 14 years in the lifestyle. We have tried pretty much everything at least twice, and have settled on the things we most enjoy. Always love meeting new people in the lifestyle, whether we play or not. In the bedroom we enjoy soft or full swap, pretty much equally. He is very fluid in his play styles. She most appreciates soft touch and oral. She is into men, but enjoys women from the waist up. Finally, we travel a significant amout, and frequently on lifestyle trips.