Attending Private Events

Looking for feedback. From time to time we host events, we always see lots of profiles looking at the events but we rarely get people from SH actually attending. There are some profiles we recognize that have accounts on other LS sites but the majority are profiles exclusive to this site.

So…what’s the tipping point for you to attend an event ? I don’t need to hear about babysitting issues or caring for your aging parent, I want to know what prevents you from coming out to something (new, scared, just looking) and what would be the tipping point for you to attend something.

 Mr OFL

From what I have seen, some events posted here are too short-notice for many. In my own case, I can typically attend even with fairly short notice (less than 2 weeks), but being a single male, it can be difficult for me to find a lady to accompany me on short notice when the host requires everyone to come as part of a couple.

Another important variable is distance and overnight accomodations. Not everyone wishes to drive for 2 hours only to drive back late, so unless it's possible to spend the night or nearby accommodations are suggested, sometimes that will keep me from attending.

But perhaps the biggest obstacle for me is that there is not much detail in the event description about what the hosts are looking for, what sort of fun they are hoping to have, how many they would like to attend, any rules they may have in mind, etc.. In other words, too vague or scanty a description can leave one unsure if one should offer to attend or not.

I hope you have good luck with your next event. 🙂

-MM

Great feedback. If you look at the events we've hosted, what do you think is missing, pick any event you like. I think we've been pretty clear but maybe I'm way off and it's not clear at all. I completely understand the short notice thing, those are more like booty calls than events IMO.

You missed an option

We go , don’t know anybody and want to meet and experience new friends.

We go to many of the private parties but lately many have overflow lists as they fill up having VIP membership to m4

allows us to just go drop-in in have a few drinks socialize at no additional cost 7 days per week, afternoon or evening.

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We go , don’t know anybody and want to meet and experience new friends.

I don't understand. I'm asking "what stops you from going".

Went To M4 yesterday huge crowd largest I've ever seen here. Some social; group decided to attend and packed the place.

We would come to any private party for swinger couples. Unfortunately lately we joined varios events with wanna be swingers, events for swingers, kinksters and everything else under the sun, so interests were diverging, and so on. So now we are really wary of joining events, as we know we won’t have a good time. We like smaller events where we know at least some of the people, or we can exchange some messages before to understand what everyone is into.

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We would come to any private party for swinger couples. Unfortunately lately we joined varios events with wanna be swingers, events for swingers, kinksters and everything else under the sun, so interests were diverging, and so on. So now we are really wary of joining events, as we know we won’t have a good time. We like smaller events where we know at least some of the people, or we can exchange some messages before to understand what everyone is into.

Reading between the lines a bit here after looking at your profile. You go to events to play and not just socialize. So if it's a "no play" event you'd rather not bother. Maybe the hosts didn't set, or clearly state, the ground rules ahead of time and/or nobody asked. And I assume you ask now so you know what to expect and don't get dissapointed ?

I'm poking at this stuff because I want to know what makes/breaks decisions to attend events, it's not personal in any way, just trying to figure out why we don't see SH members attend events.

I can't help you with 1, 2, 4, 5, 8

6 agree, 7 we don't organize events for profit, 9 we try hard, 10 agree but have never charged a cover, and yes to 11,

And thanks for replying

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We would come to any private party for swinger couples. Unfortunately lately we joined varios events with wanna be swingers, events for swingers, kinksters and everything else under the sun, so interests were diverging, and so on. So now we are really wary of joining events, as we know we won’t have a good time. We like smaller events where we know at least some of the people, or we can exchange some messages before to understand what everyone is into.

Love these. We are a bit new and open to invites.

@westgate1, thinking about #5, we find very few profiles adding themselves to events here on SH and the opposite happening on other sites (CD), many profiles signed and 1/3 show. For both these sites we also get many show up that stayed under the radar, they never advertise their interest, they just show up.

All that to say....I don't rely on the event posts, not as a planner or attendee.

A lot of the parties are face book groups now the ones listed fill up quickly or even have a waiting list for next party

I enjoy private events, transportation and or time/distance comes into play. Ride shares among other playmates. Interesting.

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Went To M4 yesterday huge crowd largest I've ever seen here. Some social; group decided to attend and packed the place.

That would be me! lol!

How do you find out about private parties and get invited? We are looking for parties around london or windsor area .

A lot of party's are on face book. or word of mouth.

Ok thank you. We don't know anyone else in the lifestyle yet so word of mouth is hard. Is there a certain fb group we should try to join ?

Hi All. We’re in the same position and curious how to find these private events as we’d much prefer that over a club. We’re not really club people but love smaller events. Any suggestions on how to find the FB groups? Thanks!

Yes I too would like the names of these Facebook groups please

We would love to come to these parties. Though member of clubs too. We are open minded cpl she is Bi curious. Please let us now if any event coming up in April

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